A Basis Of Human Relations Originates From Being Independent
                 

Hiroyuki Ando     


Recentry, people fall into illusion as if there seems to be no news, because all the newspaper is filled in information of AUM case day and night. Every time the leading members go in and out, they cry in a shrill voice, " See you ! " or " Welcome back ". It is unfolded the scene that people, regardless of age and sex, tease the leading members of AUM to sign with bouquet in front of the total headquater at South Aoyama. These are similar to the attitude toward the artiste. There are not a few youth in this crowds. They say, " I can't find out anything to do for myself now. I want to have faith in AUM and to teach me something what I hve to do " .
But I believe this is a wrong thinking way.
Though there is not a manual or answer of life, it is terrible that they don't hold any doubts about themselves that they depend on someone who indicates them everything what to do. Certainly, since philosophy was commenced, there was the thesis that a man came into existence for what or lived for what. But nobody can have detected the answer of this problem. Therefore, do people live by themselves with hope ?
It has been said about diversity of value for a long time. The more the value become to be diversified, the more people lose own judgments and own words. Do people lose themselves the value of the mass, that is, common language by making them embed in.
Dr Takeshi Yoro, who leave the University of Tokyo before retirement age, mentioned in his writting that he was lacking passion to educate the students who were flocked in the easy course without discerning the substantial.
Certainly, it seems to let oneself embed in the way of thinking of the mass and to live with common language is an easy living, because people don't feel alone and jar with the others as an indivisual. Because, both own value standard and own judgment is not cared about. If it is only cared about, that is to what extent protrudes from the group and how use the common language to suit the intention of the group.
But, this is to make many sacrifice adversele. Common language is based on value standard of someone else, as aforesaid, therefore, to use the common language is becoming to abandon own value judgment. And they restrain by themselves in relation with someone else. In other words, ingretiative relation has priority, and penetrative relation becomes to be unnesessary. They abandon even self-respect by themselves.
Self-respect is the mind that people proud or prize about themselves, that is to say, this is the mind that is not afraid of isolation. People are much afraid of isolation, they are willing to escape from isolation by using the common language. However, there is not own language that is ascertained by own susceptibility, seen with own eyes, thought about and judged. There is only language of someone else based on the value standard of the others.
When ingratiators judge the person, they are apt to use the way of expression, such as " Everyone says that he or she is ………". But they cherish the illusion that language of someone else is the truth, and they unquestioningly accept that language without any hesitation. However, in such expressions, though disposition can be manifested, substantial cann't. It may be fiction that is make up by the common language. But ingratiators transmit as if the fiction is substantial without any hesitation.
Penetrators don't judge the person in single word, and press others for community of the common language or give others threat. But ingratiators suddenly change even the facial appearance and attitude, and become to be aggressive in an instance. They interpret in self-affirmative, self-centered, and aim at maintainning stability in the convinient group for themselves.
In the excess of being afraid of isolation, ingratiators are absorbed in relation. It become to be more important rather what oneself feels and thinks about than oneself who is looked by someone else. As a result, they make a living like a bat in Aesop's Fables for self-protection. And conseqently it becomes to deprive the liberty and abandon to live in good faith by own hand. Ingratiators judge sincerity whether by keeping company with others outwardly in relation or not.
But the problem whether individual is sincere or not is just penetrative and introspective problem. Because value standard whether individual is sincere or not exist only in oneself, though others judge how about it.
However ingratiators who are afraid of isolation and desire perfunctory sincerity don't have self-confidence. Accordingly, they compel the others to mention some words because of revealing self-justification, at times, they are willing to exclude that person simply because he doesn't refer.
Mr Souseki Natsume said " a person who is not sincere for oneself cannot be gentle to others ". But will people lose own language more and more as long as they don't astablish by themselves, getting rid of relation. Is language of someone else used as if it is language of oneself without realizing that self-judgment depends on value standard of the others, and judging consiouly where the language is made by?
It is arrogant. Ingratiators don't have language of themselves. They will form the groupby using common language and holding conciousness of comrade in common easily.
Then, why will they want to form the group? It is a reason of inferiority complex. Inferiority complex is also estimated in value standard of someone else. Therefore, do they insist on self-justification by forming the group according to lack of firm confidence?
However, the group is to have many contradiction. There is not personal value judgment because of only unity power whether it is used common language or not. In conseqence, even if it seems to be united superficially, it becomes to make the person talk by common language according to value standard of someone who appeals with great emphasis. Therefore, the moment the person start to establish himself, the group is broken up at a strech. By not being afraid of isolation and by being apart from common languade, people can get rid of common language made by value standard of someone else and take back language of themselves. In that time, it becomes to realize substantial that has not been in sight up to now for the first time
Mr Takuboku Ishikawa mentioned in his writting. " Rhymer must be a man first, must be a man second, must be a man third ". To liberate oneself from the disposition, for example, occupation and the others, to boycot language of someone else entirely, to confront only mirror in oneself, this penetrative, introspective attitude or thinking is original fundamental relation of a man. It is essential that an individual liberates oneself from the magical power that common language has, and lives with freedom and sincerity, and self-respect each other.

 


                         

Edited by Hiroyuki Ando